What To Do if You Are Having a Midlife Crisis
There’s a lot of controversy surrounding the idea of a midlife crisis. Some people say it’s a myth, while others say that maybe it comes in so many different variations that it’s hard to describe.
Still, many adults go through a stage where they feel washed up or question the meaning of their lives. They may even follow the old stereotype of buying a sports car or join the newer trend of excessive exercise.
Whether you visit a Jaguar dealership or a nearby fitness gym, the reaction often has been set off by specific events rather than with age. You’ll usually find some triggers such as divorce or the death of a loved one.
Plus, with the average lifespan growing longer, you could experience quarterly upheavals early on.
Fortunately, these adjustments offer positive opportunities as well as dilemmas. Learn what to do when you or your spouse are going through a midlife crisis.
Coping with your Spouse's Crisis
- Think before acting. Slow down if you feel like quitting your job or having an affair. You may want to make abrupt changes in your life but consider the consequences first to avoid losing the things you value.
- Set new goals. Have something to look forward to. Pursue an encore career or do more volunteer work in your community. Move to another city or go back to school.
- Shape up. A healthy lifestyle can reduce your risk for many diseases associated with aging. Design a balanced program including training for cardio fitness, flexibility, strength, and balance. Pick activities that are appropriate for your age and ability.
- Assess your priorities. Have your children left home? Are you tired of online shopping and office politics? Reflect on what having a fulfilling life means to you now.
- Stay engaged. Feeling bored? Remember, anything can be interesting if you pay more attention to it. Put more energy and enthusiasm into your activities. Communicate regularly with family and friends.
- Visit your doctor. Hormonal changes and changes in your body due to aging can affect your thoughts and emotions. Ask your doctor if there could be an underlying medical cause for your situation.
- Talk it over. Join a mental health support group when you’re struggling. Share your thoughts with your family and friends and ask for their help.
Coping with your Spouse's Crisis
- Focus on yourself. If your significant other is going through a midlife crisis, it affects you too. While you’re looking out for them, remember to take care of your own needs and those of your children. Set sensible boundaries and stick to them.
- Offer validation. You may disagree with some of your spouse’s new choices, but you can try to understand their feelings. Listen to their opinion and show your unconditional love.
- Be patient. Relationships are not fixed; they have ups and downs. Remind yourselves what you love about each other during this time when you’re going through a rough period.
- Have fun. When was the last time you and your spouse took time out to enjoy each other’s company? Prepare your favorite dinner together and eat it outside on the patio. Take up a new hobby you can do together such as kayaking or playing chess.
- Consider counseling. If you think you need more assistance, talk to a professional therapist who specializes in relationships and aging. If your spouse is reluctant to try couples counseling, go on your own.
You can come out from a midlife crisis with more wisdom and enthusiasm for the years ahead. Protect your quality of life by taking care of your health, cultivating close connections, and setting inspiring goals.
This article was originally posted at Midlife Coaching with Shannon.
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